The Dreamy Idealist Dreams of His Perfect Other

I finally took the courage to visit my blog and post a new entry during my lunchbreak. This will be a quick post but I believe it's going to be a long read. But I do hope you will still take time to read. hehe

I took this quiz on www.ipersonic.com and the result is I am a Dreamy Idealist.

The website says:

Dreamy Idealists are very cautious and therefore often appear shy and reserved to others.

I say: That's partly true. Some people thought I'm a snob or aloof but the mere truth is that "isa lang po akong mahiyaing bata sa personal!" (I'm just shy in person!)

The website says:

They share their rich emotional life and their passionate convictions with very few people.

I say: I agree. It takes time for me to trust someone and share my emotional life. naks! emo! hehe

The website says:

But one would be very much mistaken to judge them to be cool and reserved.

I say: That's true. Some people think I'm cool lalo na yung mga pinsan kong bata. hehe. But some people think I'm lame and boring. haha. I can't blame them. That's partly true. Well, as the saying goes, "You can never please everybody!"

The website says:

They have a pronounced inner system of values and clear, honourable principles for which they are willing to sacrifice a great deal. Dreamy Idealists are always at great pains to improve the world. They can be very considerate towards others and do a lot to support them and stand up for them. They are interested in their fellow beings, attentive and generous towards them.

I say: I agree. Naks! Seriously, I had experienced studying the bible with some preachers and I believe it helped a lot for me to develop the core skills that are needed for me to become a better citizen. Unfortunately, I've been having a hard time lately juggling between my working schedules and attending spiritual or Christian meetings.

The website says:

Dreamy Idealists prefer to motivate others with their amicable and enthusiastic nature. Whoever has them as superior will never have to complain about not being given enough praise.

I say: I couldn't agree more. *wink*

And my favorite part...

Dreamy Idealist on Love

Fantasies, dreams, and ideals, play an important role in your life. In your heart, you carry visions of a better world where the wolf plays with the lamb, and the creeks carry milk and honey. Naturally, this also applies to the subject of love. You are absolutely convinced that your perfect other half with whom you can merge into the perfect oneness, exists somewhere in this world. You are obviously aware that this extraordinary gift won’t just land in your lap, but you are willing to wait for a long time and sacrifice a lot, if necessary, to reach this vital goal. “Per aspera ad astra,” or “Through the night to the light,” is your motto. As all Idealists, you tend to raise your chosen partner up on a sky-high pedestal - especially at the beginning of a relationship. Essentially, you have excellent insight into human nature but when you are in love, you obviously throw all of that out the window. That can be the only explanation why you aren’t able to see even the smallest blemish on this person.


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On Seeing the Perfect Other

I've read a story that reminds me of a certain girl to whom I fell inlove with but things were just too complicated. I met this girl some time 2 years ago. She was single back then, so was I. I thought we had a connection. I liked her, no, I was inlove with her, but for some reasons, at that time, I thought it just wouldn't work for both of us. And when the time came that I realized that she's the perfect girl for me, it's too late as she is already in a relationship with some guy.

So here goes the story, taken from "Haruki Murakami's On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning"

Once upon a time, there lived a boy and a girl. The boy was eighteen and the girl sixteen. He was not unusually handsome, and she was not especially beautiful. They were just an ordinary lonely boy and an ordinary lonely girl, like all the others. But they believed with their whole hearts that somewhere in the world there lived the 100% perfect boy and the 100% perfect girl for them. Yes, they believed in a miracle. And that miracle actually happened.

One day the two came upon each other on the corner of a street.

"This is amazing," he said. "I've been looking for you all my life. You may not believe this, but you're the 100% perfect girl for me."

"And you," she said to him, "are the 100% perfect boy for me, exactly as I'd pictured you in every detail. It's like a dream."

They sat on a park bench, held hands, and told each other their stories hour after hour. They were not lonely anymore. They had found and been found by their 100% perfect other. What a wonderful thing it is to find and be found by your 100% perfect other. It's a miracle, a cosmic miracle.

As they sat and talked, however, a tiny, tiny sliver of doubt took root in their hearts:

"Was it really all right for one's dreams to come true so easily?"

And so, when there came a momentary lull in their conversation, the boy said to the girl, "Let's test ourselves - just once. If we really are each other's 100% perfect lovers, then sometime, somewhere, we will meet again without fail. And when that happens, and we know that we are the 100% perfect ones, we'll marry then and there. What do you think?"

"Yes," she said, "that is exactly what we should do."

And so they parted, she to the east, and he to the west.

The test they had agreed upon, however, was utterly unnecessary. They should never have undertaken it, because they really and truly were each other's 100% perfect lovers, and it was a miracle that they had ever met. But it was impossible for them to know this, young as they were. The cold, indifferent waves of fate proceeded to toss them unmercifully.

One winter, both the boy and the girl came down with the season's terrible inluenza, and after drifting for weeks between life and death they lost all memory of their earlier years. When they awoke, their heads were as empty as the young D. H. Lawrence's piggy bank.

They were two bright, determined young people, however, and through their unremitting efforts they were able to acquire once again the knowledge and feeling that qualified them to return as full-fledged members of society. Heaven be praised, they became truly upstanding citizens who knew how to transfer from one subway line to another, who were fully capable of sending a special-delivery letter at the post office. Indeed, they even experienced love again, sometimes as much as 75% or even 85% love.

Time passed with shocking swiftness, and soon the boy was thirty-two, the girl thirty.

One beautiful April morning, in search of a cup of coffee to start the day, the boy was walking from west to east, while the girl, intending to send a special-delivery letter, was walking from east to west, but along the same narrow street in the Harajuku neighborhood of Tokyo. They passed each other in the very center of the street. The faintest gleam of their lost memories glimmered for the briefest moment in their hearts. Each felt a rumbling in their chest. And they knew:

"She is the 100% perfect girl for me." "He is the 100% perfect boy for me."

But the glow of their memories was far too weak, and their thoughts no longer had the clarity of fourteen years earlier. Without a word, they passed each other, disappearing into the crowd. Forever.

A sad story, don't you think? Yes, that's it, that is what I should have said to her.

PS: I was inspired to feature Haruki Murakami's "On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning" after reading Kris Canimo's entry entitled "On Seeing the 100% Perfect Boy."