Friday, May 29, 2009

The Dreamy Idealist Dreams of His Perfect Other

I finally took the courage to visit my blog and post a new entry during my lunchbreak. This will be a quick post but I believe it's going to be a long read. But I do hope you will still take time to read. hehe

I took this quiz on and the result is I am a Dreamy Idealist.

The website says:

Dreamy Idealists are very cautious and therefore often appear shy and reserved to others.
I say: That's partly true. Some people thought I'm a snob or aloof but the mere truth is that "isa lang po akong mahiyaing bata sa personal!" (I'm just shy in person!)

The website says:
They share their rich emotional life and their passionate convictions with very few people.
I say: I agree. It takes time for me to trust someone and share my emotional life. naks! emo! hehe

The website says:
But one would be very much mistaken to judge them to be cool and reserved.
I say: That's true. Some people think I'm cool lalo na yung mga pinsan kong bata. hehe. But some people think I'm lame and boring. haha. I can't blame them. That's partly true. Well, as the saying goes, "You can never please everybody!"

The website says:
They have a pronounced inner system of values and clear, honourable principles for which they are willing to sacrifice a great deal. Dreamy Idealists are always at great pains to improve the world. They can be very considerate towards others and do a lot to support them and stand up for them. They are interested in their fellow beings, attentive and generous towards them.

I say: I agree. Naks! Seriously, I had experienced studying the bible with some preachers and I believe it helped a lot for me to develop the core skills that are needed for me to become a better citizen. Unfortunately, I've been having a hard time lately juggling between my working schedules and attending spiritual or Christian meetings.

The website says:
Dreamy Idealists prefer to motivate others with their amicable and enthusiastic nature. Whoever has them as superior will never have to complain about not being given enough praise.
I say: I couldn't agree more. *wink*

And my favorite part...

Dreamy Idealist on Love

Fantasies, dreams, and ideals, play an important role in your life. In your heart, you carry visions of a better world where the wolf plays with the lamb, and the creeks carry milk and honey. Naturally, this also applies to the subject of love. You are absolutely convinced that your perfect other half with whom you can merge into the perfect oneness, exists somewhere in this world. You are obviously aware that this extraordinary gift won’t just land in your lap, but you are willing to wait for a long time and sacrifice a lot, if necessary, to reach this vital goal. “Per aspera ad astra,” or “Through the night to the light,” is your motto. As all Idealists, you tend to raise your chosen partner up on a sky-high pedestal - especially at the beginning of a relationship. Essentially, you have excellent insight into human nature but when you are in love, you obviously throw all of that out the window. That can be the only explanation why you aren’t able to see even the smallest blemish on this person.

On Seeing the Perfect Other

I've read a story that reminds me of a certain girl to whom I fell inlove with but things were just too complicated. I met this girl some time 2 years ago. She was single back then, so was I. I thought we had a connection. I liked her, no, I was inlove with her, but for some reasons, at that time, I thought it just wouldn't work for both of us. And when the time came that I realized that she's the perfect girl for me, it's too late as she is already in a relationship with some guy.

So here goes the story, taken from "Haruki Murakami's On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning"

Once upon a time, there lived a boy and a girl. The boy was eighteen and the girl sixteen. He was not unusually handsome, and she was not especially beautiful. They were just an ordinary lonely boy and an ordinary lonely girl, like all the others. But they believed with their whole hearts that somewhere in the world there lived the 100% perfect boy and the 100% perfect girl for them. Yes, they believed in a miracle. And that miracle actually happened.

One day the two came upon each other on the corner of a street.

"This is amazing," he said. "I've been looking for you all my life. You may not believe this, but you're the 100% perfect girl for me."

"And you," she said to him, "are the 100% perfect boy for me, exactly as I'd pictured you in every detail. It's like a dream."

They sat on a park bench, held hands, and told each other their stories hour after hour. They were not lonely anymore. They had found and been found by their 100% perfect other. What a wonderful thing it is to find and be found by your 100% perfect other. It's a miracle, a cosmic miracle.

As they sat and talked, however, a tiny, tiny sliver of doubt took root in their hearts:
"Was it really all right for one's dreams to come true so easily?"

And so, when there came a momentary lull in their conversation, the boy said to the girl, "Let's test ourselves - just once. If we really are each other's 100% perfect lovers, then sometime, somewhere, we will meet again without fail. And when that happens, and we know that we are the 100% perfect ones, we'll marry then and there. What do you think?"

"Yes," she said, "that is exactly what we should do."

And so they parted, she to the east, and he to the west.

The test they had agreed upon, however, was utterly unnecessary. They should never have undertaken it, because they really and truly were each other's 100% perfect lovers, and it was a miracle that they had ever met. But it was impossible for them to know this, young as they were. The cold, indifferent waves of fate proceeded to toss them unmercifully.

One winter, both the boy and the girl came down with the season's terrible inluenza, and after drifting for weeks between life and death they lost all memory of their earlier years. When they awoke, their heads were as empty as the young D. H. Lawrence's piggy bank.

They were two bright, determined young people, however, and through their unremitting efforts they were able to acquire once again the knowledge and feeling that qualified them to return as full-fledged members of society. Heaven be praised, they became truly upstanding citizens who knew how to transfer from one subway line to another, who were fully capable of sending a special-delivery letter at the post office. Indeed, they even experienced love again, sometimes as much as 75% or even 85% love.

Time passed with shocking swiftness, and soon the boy was thirty-two, the girl thirty.

One beautiful April morning, in search of a cup of coffee to start the day, the boy was walking from west to east, while the girl, intending to send a special-delivery letter, was walking from east to west, but along the same narrow street in the Harajuku neighborhood of Tokyo. They passed each other in the very center of the street. The faintest gleam of their lost memories glimmered for the briefest moment in their hearts. Each felt a rumbling in their chest. And they knew:

"She is the 100% perfect girl for me." "He is the 100% perfect boy for me."

But the glow of their memories was far too weak, and their thoughts no longer had the clarity of fourteen years earlier. Without a word, they passed each other, disappearing into the crowd. Forever.

A sad story, don't you think? Yes, that's it, that is what I should have said to her.

PS: I was inspired to feature Haruki Murakami's "On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning" after reading Kris Canimo's entry entitled "On Seeing the 100% Perfect Boy."


  1. aasarin lang muna kita....kasi naman, wag paandarin ang pagkamahiyain..go lang ng go....
    okay, seryoso mode: I cannot speak for other people. I can only speak for myself. Ako, when I really really 1000x like a person (o sya cge, love a person), sinasabi ko kasi I'm not sure what the future holds. At least no regrets. Yun nga lang kelangan ready ka for any rejection :)

  2. ang haba nga parekoi. at ang lalaki ng mga font. hindi ka naman maxadong naggugulat sa lagay na yan? huhlolz!

    Some people thought I'm a snob or aloof but the mere truth is that "isa lang po akong mahiyaing bata sa personal!"

    >>> ganto rin ako sa teleserye ng totoong buhay. apir parekoi!

    at oo, maganda nga talaga ung short story ni haruki murakami. nabasa ko 'yan nung college ako at sobrang nainlab ako run sa kwento.

    isn't it funny how you think that person was meant for you but because you lack the courage to say so, you end up losing her in the end? sad but true.

  3. basta isa ako sa mga nainiwalang isa kang mabait na bata at luckily, hindi ka aloof sakin monmon.naks.


  4. teka lang ha.

    kukuha ako ng bwelo.

  5. napakahirap kalabanin ng destiny kapag mag-isa ka lang.

    dapat dalawa kayo. ikaw at siya. kung sabagay, break time mo lang naman. paglabas mo ng opisina, kung sino yung mababangga mo siya na yun! hehe.

    pano kung wala kang mabangga?! or worse, ang nabangga mo ay.. anyways.

    have a nice search!

  6. @ Rhona
    - tama ka! dapat kakapalan ko na mukha ko. haha. thanks Rhona!

    @ Lio Loco
    - haha liniitan ko na parekoy kasi parang gulat na gulat ka ah! LOLz. apir parehu pala tayo. kunwaru mahiyain sa simula peru pag ok na, ayun!! hehe.
    - sad but true indeed!

    @ flamindevil
    - at may luckily pa talaga. hehe. ako nga dapat feeling lucky kasi magaling ka at kinakaibigan mo pa rin ang isang pipitsuging blogger tulad ko. ayun. hehe

    @ poot
    - parekoy nagpapa-cute ka ba? wag ganun. magsalita ka. wag yung smiley lang! LOL

    @ Ax
    - tama mahirap nga ilaban ang usang laban kung ang pinaglalaban mo naman ay ayaw na sa'yo. :(
    wala naman akong nakabangga kanina eh. yung crush ko babanggain ko sana kaso kasama nya bf nya. LOL

  7. waaah! bat ganun yung story! i hate it! hindi happy ending! huhuhu.

    pero mon, pareho tayo, shy type din ako e. pramiz. ang hirap talaga pag shy type... tsk tsk!

  8. OMG. this post is definitely for me. I admit. I'm a dreamy idealist. but sometimes it's better to be a realist in this world kasi naman walang perfect. ahehehe! ayun.

  9. ah ganun ba, kasama ba yung boyps. hm, mahirap hirap yan! hehe.

    wag ka mag-alala, may mahahanap mo din yun!

  10. "I say: That's partly true. Some people thought I'm a snob or aloof but the mere truth is that "isa lang po akong mahiyaing bata sa personal!""

    --hmmm ako din ganyan weh..pag sa personal na tahimik lang ako pag di pa ko kompotable..pero pag nakuha mo na nag loob ko ee super daldal na ko...

  11. This is true to everyone : One should wait her/his perfect other half with patience kasi it is worth the wait talga. pramis. Take it from moi, Monding! :D

  12. @mon: loko loko! joke lang to lahat. ehe. joke. :D [ano ba talaga?!!]

    good luck sa pagiging kolboys. apir!

    >sayang, di ko naabutan yung jumbo fonts neto. haha. asteg yung short story. i bet nabasa mo na yung post ni kris na inspired sa storyang yun. as of Lio, wag ka ng magtaka, lagi namang gula yan.:D

    keep on dreaming, man. apir!

  13. @ Deejay
    - affected masyado sa story ah. as if naman binasa lahat haha.. dulo lang ata binasa mo eh. ayos lang deejay, i know ur a busy guy! hehe. thanks. at wow shy kid ka rin in person? hehe apiyyrr!!

    @ Lucas
    - good to know we have something in common, mate. hehe. i agree nobody is perfect but i believe there is acertain someone that's perfect for each of us. i mean, yung hindi perpek peru swak para sa'tin. hehe. i hope i make sense.

    @ Ax
    - haha.. mahirap talaga magmahal ng syota ng iba. dapat titigilan ko na to. Thanks for the kind words Ax. appreciate it ;)

    @ Azul
    - apiyyrr! good to know we are the same at that part. hehe

    @ Reesie
    - Okay Ms Reesie that's duly noted. Patience is a virtue. ;) (repeating it 10x in my mind. hehe) Thanks so much!

    @ ElYas
    - nagugulat talaga ko pag nakakabasa ako ng comment na reply from my comment at yer blog. lol
    - i already changed the font naguat kasi si Lio Loco.haha. jumbo talaga! haha
    - yeah i've read that entry of Kris. thanks for mentioning that parekoy! hehe ;)

  14. ang haba pero natapos ko, sino si haruki miruyaki, hindi ko nabasa un ah... hehehe

  15. "You can never please everybody!"

    tama yan..

    pero ako di ako naniniwala sa mga test test lalo na galing sa internet site. heheh ayoko nung mga parang probability test lang..

    Ikaw lang talaga mismo ang nakakakilala sa sarili mo.

  16. i demand that all humans should love haruki murakami! haha.

  17. @ LivingStain
    - maraming salamat sa pagbasa! balik-balik ha! add kita sa wordpressers ko.

    @ Jason
    - tama yan parekoy dapat kilala natin sarili! identity crisis? wala yan!! hehe. add kita sa wordpressers ko. hehe

    @ Kris
    - we all do after reading that's story. hehe

  18. d ko trip ang haruki pero maganda ang story. neweys ikaw na ikw ang lumabas sa test na yan ano? hehe at nakasisiguro ako na meron talagang mga bagay sa buhay mo, sa puso mo na u chose to to express to few people lang at sana kasama ako sa kakaunting yun :D kung anu man yang lumabas sa test e pihadong madami pa din magmamahal sayo! ayus diba? :)

  19. kumuha din ako ng quiz Mon, at honestly totoo yung result..baka sihare ko din minsan sa blog ko.. hehe..newey, tenkyu sa pagseshare nung site.. :D

  20. bakit ganon...(hikbi) bakit ganong ka (hikbi ulit) bakit sabi mo isasama mo ako sa blogroll mo (singhot) bakit wala naman akong nakita (singhot sabay lulon) huhuhu...


  21. hmmm..

    shy type ako hehe..kunwari sa una xenpre hehe..

    hmm ...sama ka sa EB hehe..

    im always day dreaming wooot..may konek ba hehe,..

  22. ei bro, kailangan ba my title ung blog ko, ok na ba kahit period lang (.) kasi ayaw ko sana mag lagay ng title, e nahihirapan akong iadd ng mga taga blogspot e. salamat....

  23. @ Dencios
    - uu kasama ka dun. haha. alam mo na yun! LOL

    @ Jeremiah
    - sige share mo na bilis. hehe

    @ livingstain
    - kasi nga walang title yung blog mo kaya di ma-accept ng bloglist ko heehe nasa Links na kita

    @ anakngpating
    - di yata ako makaksama sa EB. i'd love to peru may trabaho ako un june 12. :(

  24. bro inadd kita sa YM pero wala ndi mo pa naaccept... papaturop sana ko e...

  25. hmmm..pareho pala tayong shy type ;-)

    interesting yong story ni haruki ah..tnx for sharing

  26. "a quick post... [and] a long read" i just got it! wahaha...

    sinubukan ko yung test pero di ko nagustuhan. totoo kasi. hehe. yoko ishare. hehe.

  27. @ Livingstain
    - wala naman add request ah. and i doubt it if matutulungan kita kasi i'm not on wordpress. di rin ako marunong yata. hehe

    @ Eli
    - apiyrr! salamat :)

    @ kokoi
    - uu quick post lang kasi nagawa ko tong post na to in just 30 minutes. share mo naman hehe :)

  28. Mahaba nga. Sumakit ulo ko.


    Musta na Mon?

  29. ako naman mangungulit ngayon..

    nasan na ang bagong post mo monmon!!!!!!!


  30. napadaan lang din. asan na yong sinabi mong entry mo kay otep..hehe nakita ko yong comment mo kay flamindevil kaya sinundan kita dito.

  31. hi mon!

    walang bahid ng pagnanasa ang "hi" na yan, pramis! nyahaha! :D

  32. @ KJ - bakit kaya sumakit ulo mo? hehe]

    @ Rye/flamin - may bagong post na ayw mo naman mag-comment. LOL

    @ Eli - salamat sa pag-daan

    @ Deejay
    - di ako naniniwalang walang pagnanasa yan. LOL

  33. napadaan lang at wag pairalin ang pagkamahiyain..basta handa lang sa rejection...if ever ma reject...

  34. naku po :) i learned in my psychology class na we all have dreams every night. more than a dozen dreams kaso lang there are certain dreams na tumatatak sa utak mo. significant ones. la lang just want to share! HAHAHa.

    ayos. CALLBOYs in cebu eh! HAHAHA. mga matrona at bading un. malay mo dyan tayo yayaman tol.. hehe

  35. mon meron na akong bagong post... ingatz wait ka namen.

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