How to Get a Girlfriend

I was surprised when I saw a searched keyword used by a visitor from Google and found his way to my blog. He searched "How to Get a Girlfriend". Now, whoever you are, perhaps, google led you to my site because we have something in common. We desperately need tips to get a girlfriend.

So I've read a few sites and some magazines regarding the subject matter and I have come up with 5 major tips on how to get a girlfriend. Do you have your pen and paper ready?

Okay, first off, start with a positive mindset. You may not be the hottest guy in town but one thing's for sure, some girl out there may be just right for you and simply waiting for your attention. Be confident. To look confident, have a good posture. Avoid self-pity.

2. Be friendly. Try to reach out to more people. Try to be funny. But if you're not naturally funny, don't try too hard around her. Situational humor through good timing is more interesting than a practiced punched-line jokes.

3. Connect with her. Find out what you have in common, and reward her with a smile and a story of your own if she tells you something unique about herself to which you can relate. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't. You may think you will win her over with like-mindedness, but in the end she will find you out. Find a common interest, something you both like instead.

4. Show your interest. The best way to get out of the "friend trap" is to avoid it from the start. After finding common interests, make your intentions clear. Ask for her number. Give her your phone, tell her "Put your number in my phone and I'll call your phone so you'll have mine." Tell her you'd like to take her out for coffee or dinner, or whatever is appropriate for your age and interests. Try giving gifts if you can afford it. Girls are very fond cute cartoon characters and jewelries so if you can afford it perhaps, try spending a few bucks to buy let's say hello kitty necklaces.

5. The last and most overlooked part in how to get a girlfriend is that you must look for someone who is compatible with you. If you’re a geek that enjoys playing video games, then go for a cute geeky girl that enjoys playing video games as well. If you’re into going outdoors, then find a girl that enjoys the same things as you. Getting a girlfriend can be a very rewarding experience if you choose right and will enhance your quality of life to levels you never thought possible, who knows, she might end up being your fiance one day!

Sources: WikiHow.com and some magazines

The Dreamy Idealist Dreams of His Perfect Other

I finally took the courage to visit my blog and post a new entry during my lunchbreak. This will be a quick post but I believe it's going to be a long read. But I do hope you will still take time to read. hehe

I took this quiz on www.ipersonic.com and the result is I am a Dreamy Idealist.

The website says:

Dreamy Idealists are very cautious and therefore often appear shy and reserved to others.

I say: That's partly true. Some people thought I'm a snob or aloof but the mere truth is that "isa lang po akong mahiyaing bata sa personal!" (I'm just shy in person!)

The website says:

They share their rich emotional life and their passionate convictions with very few people.

I say: I agree. It takes time for me to trust someone and share my emotional life. naks! emo! hehe

The website says:

But one would be very much mistaken to judge them to be cool and reserved.

I say: That's true. Some people think I'm cool lalo na yung mga pinsan kong bata. hehe. But some people think I'm lame and boring. haha. I can't blame them. That's partly true. Well, as the saying goes, "You can never please everybody!"

The website says:

They have a pronounced inner system of values and clear, honourable principles for which they are willing to sacrifice a great deal. Dreamy Idealists are always at great pains to improve the world. They can be very considerate towards others and do a lot to support them and stand up for them. They are interested in their fellow beings, attentive and generous towards them.

I say: I agree. Naks! Seriously, I had experienced studying the bible with some preachers and I believe it helped a lot for me to develop the core skills that are needed for me to become a better citizen. Unfortunately, I've been having a hard time lately juggling between my working schedules and attending spiritual or Christian meetings.

The website says:

Dreamy Idealists prefer to motivate others with their amicable and enthusiastic nature. Whoever has them as superior will never have to complain about not being given enough praise.

I say: I couldn't agree more. *wink*

And my favorite part...

Dreamy Idealist on Love

Fantasies, dreams, and ideals, play an important role in your life. In your heart, you carry visions of a better world where the wolf plays with the lamb, and the creeks carry milk and honey. Naturally, this also applies to the subject of love. You are absolutely convinced that your perfect other half with whom you can merge into the perfect oneness, exists somewhere in this world. You are obviously aware that this extraordinary gift won’t just land in your lap, but you are willing to wait for a long time and sacrifice a lot, if necessary, to reach this vital goal. “Per aspera ad astra,” or “Through the night to the light,” is your motto. As all Idealists, you tend to raise your chosen partner up on a sky-high pedestal - especially at the beginning of a relationship. Essentially, you have excellent insight into human nature but when you are in love, you obviously throw all of that out the window. That can be the only explanation why you aren’t able to see even the smallest blemish on this person.


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On Seeing the Perfect Other

I've read a story that reminds me of a certain girl to whom I fell inlove with but things were just too complicated. I met this girl some time 2 years ago. She was single back then, so was I. I thought we had a connection. I liked her, no, I was inlove with her, but for some reasons, at that time, I thought it just wouldn't work for both of us. And when the time came that I realized that she's the perfect girl for me, it's too late as she is already in a relationship with some guy.

So here goes the story, taken from "Haruki Murakami's On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning"

Once upon a time, there lived a boy and a girl. The boy was eighteen and the girl sixteen. He was not unusually handsome, and she was not especially beautiful. They were just an ordinary lonely boy and an ordinary lonely girl, like all the others. But they believed with their whole hearts that somewhere in the world there lived the 100% perfect boy and the 100% perfect girl for them. Yes, they believed in a miracle. And that miracle actually happened.

One day the two came upon each other on the corner of a street.

"This is amazing," he said. "I've been looking for you all my life. You may not believe this, but you're the 100% perfect girl for me."

"And you," she said to him, "are the 100% perfect boy for me, exactly as I'd pictured you in every detail. It's like a dream."

They sat on a park bench, held hands, and told each other their stories hour after hour. They were not lonely anymore. They had found and been found by their 100% perfect other. What a wonderful thing it is to find and be found by your 100% perfect other. It's a miracle, a cosmic miracle.

As they sat and talked, however, a tiny, tiny sliver of doubt took root in their hearts:

"Was it really all right for one's dreams to come true so easily?"

And so, when there came a momentary lull in their conversation, the boy said to the girl, "Let's test ourselves - just once. If we really are each other's 100% perfect lovers, then sometime, somewhere, we will meet again without fail. And when that happens, and we know that we are the 100% perfect ones, we'll marry then and there. What do you think?"

"Yes," she said, "that is exactly what we should do."

And so they parted, she to the east, and he to the west.

The test they had agreed upon, however, was utterly unnecessary. They should never have undertaken it, because they really and truly were each other's 100% perfect lovers, and it was a miracle that they had ever met. But it was impossible for them to know this, young as they were. The cold, indifferent waves of fate proceeded to toss them unmercifully.

One winter, both the boy and the girl came down with the season's terrible inluenza, and after drifting for weeks between life and death they lost all memory of their earlier years. When they awoke, their heads were as empty as the young D. H. Lawrence's piggy bank.

They were two bright, determined young people, however, and through their unremitting efforts they were able to acquire once again the knowledge and feeling that qualified them to return as full-fledged members of society. Heaven be praised, they became truly upstanding citizens who knew how to transfer from one subway line to another, who were fully capable of sending a special-delivery letter at the post office. Indeed, they even experienced love again, sometimes as much as 75% or even 85% love.

Time passed with shocking swiftness, and soon the boy was thirty-two, the girl thirty.

One beautiful April morning, in search of a cup of coffee to start the day, the boy was walking from west to east, while the girl, intending to send a special-delivery letter, was walking from east to west, but along the same narrow street in the Harajuku neighborhood of Tokyo. They passed each other in the very center of the street. The faintest gleam of their lost memories glimmered for the briefest moment in their hearts. Each felt a rumbling in their chest. And they knew:

"She is the 100% perfect girl for me." "He is the 100% perfect boy for me."

But the glow of their memories was far too weak, and their thoughts no longer had the clarity of fourteen years earlier. Without a word, they passed each other, disappearing into the crowd. Forever.

A sad story, don't you think? Yes, that's it, that is what I should have said to her.

PS: I was inspired to feature Haruki Murakami's "On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning" after reading Kris Canimo's entry entitled "On Seeing the 100% Perfect Boy."

Unpredictable

Girls are very unpredictable. Maybe that's why they are often times associated with cats. Like cats, girls can be sweet now, mad later! Sometimes they enjoy being touched or stroked but sometimes they scratch you when you do that. Oh, typical girls are just so confusing.

Once again, girls are just so unpredictable. Just like the following girls below. Do you know what they all are doing ???


If not, then scroll-down to find out.

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They are all about to sneeze!!!!!!

Haha!!

What were you thinking?!

^_^

Gross Behavior

It has been all over the news. On TV, on the Internet, on printed newspapers and has been the talk of the town (heheh, medyo exaj!). Singer superstar Rihanna has been allegedly beaten up by singer boyfriend Chris Brown. (Gustong-gusto ko 'tong couple na'to kaya medyo affected talaga ako sa nangyari.. tsk. tsk!)

So, we can't help but ask, what drives a man to be so cruel to the woman he claims to love?



Source: MSN news

A photo that appears to be Rihanna's face with bruises, scratches and swelling from an attack allegedly at the hands of boyfriend Chris Brown was posted Thursday night by the celebrity Web site TMZ.

The close-up image shows a welt above each of the woman's eyebrows, marks on her cheek and around her lips, and general swelling. TMZ did not say how it obtained the photo, when it was taken or by whom.
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Brown was arrested Feb. 8 and booked on suspicion of making felony criminal threats to a woman that authorities have not publicly identified. A person familiar with the situation, who was not authorized to speak publicly on the matter and requested anonymity, confirmed that the woman was Rihanna, whose real name is Robyn Fenty.
- MSN news

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This news reminds me of someone I know who used to be beaten up by her husband. Her name was Roxanne, a distant relative. Her husband is charming, popular and well-praised for his good deeds in the community. But there is a dark side to Roxanne's mate, one that even their close friends do not see. Roxanne confessed, "At home, he's a monster. He gets intensely jealous easily."

The problem began after they'd been married for just a few weeks. "My brothers and my mother visited us, and I had such a good time talking and laughing with them. But when they left, my husband violently threw me onto the sofa, wild with rage. I couldn't believe what was happening."

Sadly, that was just the beginning of Roxanne's agony, for over the years, she has been battered repeatedly. The abuse seems to follow a predictable cycle. Her husband beats her, then he apologizes profusely and promises never to do it again. His conduct improves—at least for a while. Then the nightmare starts all over. "I keep thinking that maybe this time he'll change," Roxanne says. Even when she runs away, she always goes back to him.

CAUSES of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

So, how do you know if your soon-to-be partner will eventually become a batterer? I was reading an old release of a magazine called Awake! regarding family matters and there’s this certain section that talks about the common causes of domestic violence. Ladies, I suggest that you pay attention to the following paragraphs.. ;)


The Family Connection

Not surprisingly, a number of physically abusive men were themselves raised in abusive families. "As babies and young children, they grew up in hostile surroundings where emotional and physical violence were 'normal.'" According to one expert, a male who is raised in such an environment "can absorb his father's contempt for women very early in life. The boy learns that a man must always be in control of women and that the way to get that control is to scare them, hurt them, and demean them. At the same time, he learns that the one sure way to get his father's approval is to behave as his father does."

Of course, the family environment does not excuse a man's battering, but it may help to explain where the seeds of a violent temperament were sown.


Alcoholism and Drugs

Many male batterers also abuse alcohol and other drugs, it's easy to conclude that these substances may cause domestic violence. Substance abuse increases the risk for and lethality of the violence. However, one thing for sure, being under the influence of drugs or alcohol are not excuses for a batterer's behavior or for his failure to take responsibility for his behavior.

Provoked?

Many batterers deny responsibility for their actions, claiming that their wives provoke them. Even some friends of the family may buy into the idea that the wife is difficult to deal with, so no wonder that her husband loses control now and then. But this amounts to blaming the victim and justifying the aggressor. Really, battered wives often make extraordinary efforts to pacify their husbands. Besides, beating one's partner is never justified under any circumstances. The book The Batterer—A Psychological Profile states: "Men who are sent by the courts to treatment for wife assault are addicted to violence. They use it as a release from anger and depression, a way to take control and resolve conflicts, and a tension reducer. . . . Often, they can't even acknowledge their role or take the problem seriously."

Bottom line is, there is no excuse for a batterer to beat someone especially if that someone is the one he claims to love. That is just a very gross behavior. Take care everyone!

Ten Random Things About Me

I was tagged by Rye aka Flamindevil to list Ten Random Things About Me and it's okay kasi wala pa naman akong na-iisip na topic for a new entry. As usual, the rule is to list down ten information about yourself, nine of them are facts and one is a LIE. So feel free to make a guess guys. ;)

Ok, so without further ado, here it goes...




10 Random Things About Me


1. I was born in Valenzuela City, Metro Manila. My mom used to work as secretary at a local law firm. She quit her job because his employer attempted to harass her and so we moved back to Cebu when I was 5.


2. I used to be a mommy's boy when I was younger. But as I was growing up, we've had conflicts which created a slight gap between us. But that does not alter the fact that I love my mom so much.


3. I am a 23-year old male virgin. No need to hurry. I am saving it for the right person and it’s gonna happen at the right time.


4. I stand 5 feet and 5.5 inches. I’ve always been unhappy with my height and I am so obsessed of gaining more height that I even bought 2 bottles of Cherifer PGM 2 months ago. Even at 23, I am still taking it daily. LOLz.


5. I have a mild thoracic dextroscoliosis 25 degrees. My back looks a little uneven but no, I’m not a hunchback. For more information about scoliosis. Visit Wikipedia.com and enter “scoliosis”. Hehe. ;p


6. I used to go to a gym as advised by my doctor. I had a physical therapist who used to guide me with the exercises. Kaso nung nalaman kong bakla sya, nag-quit ako kasi di ko sya type.. haha.. Nakakatakot sya kasi he was huge!! 5'11 ata yun!Medyo Chubby!


7. I’ve had 3 official girlfriends. None of those relationships lasted 4 months.


8.When I was in Grade 6, I thought I was infatuated with our PE teacher!! He was very good at basketball. Now, I've realized it was just plain admiration. Perhaps I was just looking up to him like a father figure or older brother.


9. One of the movies that made me cry in a movie house was Steven Spielberg's Artificial Intelligence (2001). The movie was like a story of a boy robot. It's like a modern Pinocchio movie (as if di nyo napanood, hehe). The fact that he went that far but was not able to accomplish his goal, that is, to look for the blue fairy who can make him a real boy, and that scene wherein his "mom" abandoned him in the woods because they thought he might hurt their real son, oh it's just so heart-breaking.


Watch the Movie Here:

ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE

10. Lastly, my favorite music artists are Jason Mraz and Michael Buble.

Wheow! Finally, I'm done with this obligatory post. ;)
And I would like to know more about the following bloggers, hence, you guys are TAGGED.

KRISJASPER
JAJA aka Bella
Sir KOKOI
ABREL
DESZA

P.S: No Pressure guys, Take your time. Please, don't hate me. Peace! =)

Mahal ko si DOTA

Napag-isip isip ko na marahil masyadong malungkot ang tema ng aking huling dalawang blogpost at ayokong makahawa o magdulot ng malungkot na atmospera sa blogosphere. Paumanhin po kung ganun man. At paumanhin po kung mali-mali ang aking Tagalog ngayon. Gusto ko lang talaga subukan mag-post ng purong Tagalog lang, ng maiba naman. Bisaya po talaga ako. ;)

Nais ko pong ibahagi ang isang nakakatawang e-mail na natanggap ko mula sa isang kaibigan. Hindi po sya blogger kaya wala akong link na mailalagay.

Dahil ako po ay mahilig din sa larong DOTA, na-tuwa talaga ako ng matanggap ko ito.

DOTA Vs. GF

si DOTA isa lang sa mundo,
GF napakarami niyan.
si GF iiwan ka din niyan,
si DOTA hindi.
si GF nagagalit pagnagdodota ka,
si DOTA hindi nagagalit pag nagGF ka.
si DOTA P20 lang masaya na,
si GF baka P200 hindi pa masaya.
pagnakakakita ka ng ibang Hero hndi nagagalit si DOTA,
pero pagnakakakita ka ng ibang babae nagagalit si GF.
si GF pag iniwan mo mahirap na balikan,
si DOTA pag iniwan mo, handa ka parin tanggapin.
Ano mas gusto mo DOTA o GF?
mag-isip ka na....

GIRLFRIEND: Bakit ang DOTA ba maroromansa ka?
DOTA: Bakit mabibigyan ka ba ng gf ng
tripleng sarap pag naka triple kill ka?
GIRLFRIEND: Bakit ang Dota ba kayang kompletuhin ang pagkatao ng isang lalake?
DOTA: Bakit kaya ba ng babae gawing GODLIKE ang isang lalake?

BUT they have 1 thing in common:
Yun ay lagi silang anjan pag me problema ka. Pag natalo ka sa pustahan sa dota cno magpapasaya sau GF dba? Pag nagkaproblema ka naman sa GF cno magpapasaya sau DOTA dba?

;)

Kaya sa lahat ng girls jan, feel free to comment. Peru wag nyo po ako awayin ha. Hindi po ako nagsulat nyan. ;)


Para sa mga hindi pa nakaka-alam kong ano ang DOTA ito po ay isang multi-player computer game. For more information, please click here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Defense_of_the_Ancients

Puppy Love

If smart people usually have stupid hearts, well, with the rate that my stupid heart is going, I must be a freaking genius!

That statement above that I’ve read from Flamindevil’s post, Question Everything has really made a hell of an impact to me. Why? Because I believe I’ve been cursed to live with a stupid and stubborn heart. And it reminds me of my puppy love. Might sound cheesy but it's true.

With the number of times I’ve had my heart broken, I can’t help but ask myself, “Am I intellectually gifted?” My mom would probably say “YES!” without a doubt. Why of course, she’s my mom. I’m her only son and she loves me.

Wayback in my elementary years, I may not be the brightest kid in class, but I never fail to be included in the top 10. When I was in grade 1, I got recognized as the No. 1 Most Outstanding Student with all other minor awards. Halos di magkasya ang dibdib ko to accommodate ribbons and medals. Haha! Yabang ba? Yaan nyo na po. Minsan lang to.



I graduated in elementary with honors and I belonged to the top 10. Ako yung tipo ng estudyante na hindi nag-aaral unless there’s an exam the following day. Kaya ayun, hindi ako makapasok-pasok sa top 5. Hanggang sa gumradweyt ako ng High School, based on the ranking, top 6th of the graduating class daw ako. That’s why, I have doubts on whether I am smart or not.

Ngunit kung pagbabasehan natin ang pangungusap sa ibabaw, then I must be very smart or intellectually-gifted. LOLs!! Cuz I believe I have a very stupid heart.

Puppy Love

When I was in second year hi-school, I fell in love with my seatmate. Her name was Lynette*. She had a very cute smile. Her eyes were tantalizing. Yung parang nasa anime. We share a lot of things in common, that’s why I easily fell for her. We were both raised with a single mom. Palagi kaming magkasama. Ako taga-gawa ng assignments. Taga-bitbit ng bag. Taga-gawa ng Art projects. She calls me “bessy”. I used to call her “buddy”.

We both loved “Flame of Recca”, a Japanese animated show in which Recca, the protagonist, claims to be a ninja and promised to serve and protect her princess all the time. Everyday we enthusiastically talk about what happened to Recca and her princess.

One time sabi niya, “Mon kamukha mo si Recca.”
“Ikaw nga din eh, kamukha mo yung prinsesa.”
“Really? Owwss!! Talaga?” Sabi ko naman, “Oo talaga!”

She gave me a wide smile and she had the most beautiful smile my eyes had ever seen.
And her lips were pink. I thought that was enough for an invitation so I kissed her. But she pushed me away. Then she stood up and walked away. Leaving me confused and broken..

That night I texted her telling her I was in love with her. She replied and told me to wait because her parents didn’t want her to have a boyfriend at that time. So I waited, and waited… and until my heart has gone tired. But since there never was a closure or she never told me about until when should I keep waiting. Maybe, I'm up until now, my heart is still waiting. For how long? I don’t know…

One day, she texted me this quotes:

We have two eyes and just one tongue, which means we need to look twice and talk once… We have two ears and just one mouth, so we need to listen more than we talk…We have two hands and one stomach, so we need to work twice as much as we eat… We have two major brain parts and one heart, so we can think twice and love only one. Isn’t it amazing that our body parts remind us on how to live right?

Modern Love Letter

Let me share this extra-ordinary love letter that sounds more like a business letter. =)


Modern Love Letter
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My dear Maxine,

I am very happy to inform you that I have fallen in love with you since
Tuesday, the 8th of May 2006.

With reference to the meeting held between us on the 8th of May 2006 at 1500 hours, I would like to present myself as a prospective lover. Our love affair would be on probation for a period of no less than three months and depending on compatibility, would be made permanent. Of course, upon completion of probation, there will be continuous relationship training and relationship appraisal schemes leading up to
promotion from lover to spouse.


The expenses incurred for coffee and entertainment would initially be shared equally between us. Later, based on your performance, I might take up a larger share of the expenses. However I am broad-minded enough, to be taken care of, on your expense account.

I request you to kindly respond within 30 days of receiving this letter, failing which, this offer would be canceled without further notice and I shall be considering someone else.I would be happy, if you could forward this letter to your sister, if you do not wish to take up this offer.

Thanking you in anticipation.

Yours sincerely,
Max



MODERN REPLY TO MODERN LOVE LETTER

Dear Max,

Please refer to your letter dated today. I am pleased to inform you that I hope to accept your proposal for romance. However, you should be informed that there are certain conditions of acceptance. Promotional prospects are to my satisfaction. Please enlighten me as to your retirement benefits. Gratuity should be
generous.

I also need to be assured that there is sufficient security with regards to this commitment. If there is any chance at all of retrenchment or consequent disinterest on your part, then I should receive monetary compensation according to union standards.

Due to the nature of my 'VIP' position, I am sure you will agree that an expense account should be arranged for my access as I shall be entertaining. In addition, housing and transport allowances should be in order. I might add that I have expensive taste and have standard to keep and maintain.

Please also note that there should be no moonlighting restrictions placed on myself. If you are still interested in the relationship, please reply on an urgent basis as other prospective lovers have sent indications of interest.

Please also note that my sister is happily employed.

Yours perhaps,
Maxine!